Practical Ways Grandparents Influence Grandchildren
We asked our Facebook friends about how Grandparents influence Grandchildren and had a positive impact on them. Our goal was to build a brainstormed list of ideas to encourage grandparents to be active participants in their grandchild’s life.
If your child’s grandparents (your in-laws or parents) could help your family with their financial and relational resources, what would you wish for?
Influence with Fun Activities
Grandparents who live near their grandchildren have an easier time growing a relationship with them. And while this is not true for all families, having a close physical proximity sure helps.
FaceTime, Skype or other video platforms can help to stay in touch. Social media platforms can certainly help with teenagers. If you live far away, do your best to visit at least once a year, even if you have to stay at an Airbnb or a hotel. And make sure you all enjoy experiences together like the zoo or an aquarium.
Elizabeth Kamm said: Lessons! Lessons are so enriching in a child’s life like learning piano, dance, or art. Also, swim classes help save lives! What a great gift for grandma & grandpa to pay for this and invest in their grandchildren!
Stephanie Hargrove Price said: I wish grandparents could help with our children’s activities and their cost! One in soccer and one in gymnastics PLUS hauling them to these things kills us! Oh, and also band and chorus, the “school” related things that still suck the money and life right out of me!
Natalie Pipkin Sanders said: Homeschooling activities – doing those with the grandchildren, transportation to and from activities, and anything in between!
Jennifer Jeldness Kimball says, “All the lessons, clubs and enrichment activities.” Those “extras” add up when you have multiple kids at the right ages for those things. Even something simple and inexpensive as scouts get to be too much when you’d like them to have the full uniform, the books, and the extras.
Influence by Babysitting
Grandparents who have or can make the time for more frequent contact with their grandchildren, in most cases, will have a closer relationship with them.
When divorce enters a family, contact with grandchildren can be affected. Just stay close to both of your grandchildren’s parents, and this could be minimized if it happens.
Amy Jordan said that “keeping the kids a few days a week would save us a great deal of $ on daycare.”
Selina McNelley said, “my parents fulfill a lot of things I need help with.” My mom is the babysitter most of the time and since she works for my dad she can take the kids to the office with her. It’s great since we have a newborn and most daycares here don’t take a child under 6 months. They also help with clothes and any other bigger purchases I need for the kids.
Candace Morris Van Horn said, “I wish the grandparents would be involved with my children. I wish they would attend any activity to show their support. I also wish they would spend time with the children.”
Helping with Education
Rochelle North says, “Grandparents can help w/ private school tuition.”
Cheryl Solt-Jones said, “Grandparents can help with college expenses and create grandparent scholarships.”
Julie Mead said: Trust funds for college. Great for helping with student loans and school expenses.
Kelly Gilluly Weyd said: Nana has a college fund for each of my kids, and instead of buying all toys on birthdays and Christmas, she puts some money in the college funds.
The Power of Spending Time Together
Beth Nace Nothing tangible. Just support in teaching my children how to live on a budget. Everything else I want the satisfaction of doing and paying for myself….devoid of Mommy and Daddy’s help!
Carla Parazine said: When I was a young parent (long ago) it would have been nothing monetary, (cause looking at some of these posts I think you all are doing way too much for and not spending enough time with) but just as my parents did, time, love, attention, wisdom, memories, moral direction were what my heart desired…and they came through perfectly. Thanks, mom and dad.
Melodee Campbell said: I am blessed with lovingly involved parents, mother-in-law, and grandmother. For 14+ years, one or another of them has offered to: take the (4) kids overnight at least once a month (not always at the same time!), help cover the costs of activities, take the kids back-to-school shopping, provide a loving presence at activities when my husband or I cannot be there, stayed with younger siblings so that we can spend focused time with the older kids. We have SO appreciated this support and the extra hands. Our kids would not be able to be involved in the many activities they have enjoyed without this family! This IS what I would wish for! 🙂
Lisa Collins Irvine said: Well, my mom already helps pay for music lessons and when we have had to repair something with the house. As far as relational, she is always there for all of us!
Marlene Mahon-Duncan said: humm…all the money that my in-laws spends on “Stuff” for the kids, Easter baskets, Halloween junk etc. Take and put in a fund for something BIG like a weekend in a nearby city, or a FAMILY trip to Disney. Then the memories with the grandkids will be bigger and better vs trips to the dollar store.