Why This Dad Gave His Teen a Classic Car – 1965 Mustang – An Idea in MoneySmart Parenting

Why you should give your Teen a Classic Car.

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What should parents do about Teens & Cars? Is it Money Smart parenting to give your kids a car and a computer? One dad thinks so.

We receive a monthly newsletter that deals with family issues and were sent a link to an intriguing article about a family with 12 kids.

Why We Thought This Dad was Smart

The dad of the family wrote the article and shared how as an engineer he earned a good salary but determined not to financially support his kids at HIS EARNING LEVEL.

Instead, he taught them to work and to save and to plan. All of the kids paid for their own college education (and several paid for graduate degrees).

Why We thought This Dad Was Dumb!

BUT . . . They almost lost us when he said that he gave each of his kids a car when they turned 16.  This Dad gave a 16-year-old a 1965 Mustang! 

You’ve got to read what he did . . . it is ingenious, clever, smart and . . . something we wish we had done!

The Thompson Family followed many of the same principals we wrote about in our award-winning book, “The MoneySmart Family System – Teaching Financial Independence to Children of Every Age.”

Read the entire article below


How I made sure my 12 kids would pay for college themselves

By Francis L. Thompson.

My wife and I had 12 children over the course of 15 1/2 years. Today, our oldest is 37 and our youngest is 22.  I have always had a very prosperous job and enough money to give my kids almost anything. But my wife and I decided not to.

Here are the Results of our Child Rearing Philosophy

I will share with you the things that we did, but first let me tell you the results: All 12 of my children have college degrees (or are in school), and we as parents did not pay for it. Most have graduate degrees. Those who are married have wonderful spouses with the same ethics and college degrees, too. We have 18 grandchildren who are learning the same things that our kids learned—self-respect, gratitude, and a desire to give back to society.

We raised our family in Utah, Florida, and California; my wife and I now live in Colorado. In March, we will have been married 40 years. I attribute the love between us as a part of our success with the children. They see a stable home life with a commitment that does not have compromises.

How We Raised Our kids to be Self Sufficient

Here’s what we did right (we got plenty wrong, too, but that’s another list):

Our Kids Did Chores

  • The girls and boys had to learn to sew.
  • They got allowances based on how they did the chores for the week.
  • Kids had to perform chores from age 3. A 3-year-old does not clean toilets very well but by the time he is 4, it’s a reasonably good job.We had the children wash their own clothes by the time they turned 8. We assigned them a wash day.
  • When they started reading, they had to make dinner by reading a recipe. They also had to learn to double a recipe.

How We Helped Them Love Learning

Education was very important in our family.

  • A Scheduled Study Time

We had study time from 6 to 8 pm every weekday. No television, computer, games, or other activities until the two hours were up. If they had no homework, then they read books. For those too young to be in school, we had someone read books to them. After the two hours, they could do whatever they wanted as long as they were in by curfew.

  • Dealing with Difficult Teachers

If children would come home and say that a teacher hated them or was not fair, our response was that you need to find a way to get along. You need to find a way to learn the material because, in real life, you may have a boss that does not like you. We would not enable children to “blame” the teacher for not learning, but place the responsibility for learning the material back on the child. Of course, we were alongside them for two hours of study a day, for them to ask for help anytime.

  • We Enrolled them in Advanced Placement Classes

All the kids were required to take every Advanced Placement class there was. We did not let entrance scores be an impediment. We went to the school and demanded our kids be let in. Then we, as parents, spent the time to ensure they had the understanding to pass the class. After the first child, the school learned that we kept our promise that the kids could handle the AP classes.

How We Dealt with Picky Eaters and Other Food Issues

  • Meals Together

We all ate dinner and breakfast together. Breakfast was at 5:15 am and then the children had to do chores before school. Dinner was at 5:30 pm.

  • How we Helped our Kids with Foods They Disliked

More broadly, our food was interesting. We wanted a balanced diet but hated it when we were young and parents made us eat all our food. Sometimes we were full and just did not want to eat anymore. Our rule was to give the kids the food they hated most first (usually vegetables) and then they got the next type of food. They did not have to eat it and could leave the table. If later they complained they were hungry, we would get out that food they did not want to eat, warm it up in the microwave, and provide it to them. Again, they did not have to eat it. But they got no other food until the next meal unless they ate it.

  • A Balanced Diet and No Snacks Between Meals

We did not have snacks between meals. We always had the four food groups (meat, dairy, grain, fruits and vegetables) and nearly always had dessert of some kind. To this day, our kids are not afraid to try different foods and have no allergies to foods. They try all kinds of new foods and eat only until they are full. Not one of our kids is even a little bit heavy. They are thin, athletic, and very healthy. With 12 kids, you would think that at least one would have some food allergies or food special needs. (I am not a doctor.)

Extracurricular Activities Were Required

  • Our Kids Played Sports

All kids had to play some kind of sport. They got to choose, but choosing none was not an option. We started them in grade school. We did not care if it was swimming, football, baseball, fencing, tennis, etc. and did not care if they chose to change sports. But they had to play something.

  • Our Kids Participated in Clubs

All kids had to be in some kind of club: Boy Scouts, Girl Scouts, history, drama, etc.

  • Our Kids Did Community Service

They were required to provide community service. We would volunteer within our community and at church. For Eagle Scout projects, we would have the entire family help. Once we collected old clothes and took them to Mexico and passed them out. The kids saw what life was like for many families and how their collections made them so happy and made a difference.

Encouraging Independence in our teens

Our goal in raising our kids was to prepare them to stand as independent, self-sufficient adults, so we did some things that other parents may not have done.

  • When the kids turned 16, we bought each a car.

The first one learned what that meant. As the tow truck pulled a once “new” car into the driveway, my oldest proclaimed: “Dad, it is a wreck!” I said, “Yes, but a 1965 Mustang fastback wreck. Here are the repair manuals. Tools are in the garage. I will pay for every part, but will not pay for LABOR.” Eleven months later, the car had a rebuilt engine, rebuilt transmission, newly upholstered interior, a new suspension system, and a new coat of paint. My daughter (yes, it was my daughter) had one of the hottest cars at high school. And her pride that she built it was beyond imaginable. (As a side note, none of my kids ever got a ticket for speeding, even though no car had less than 450 horsepower.)

  • Mistakes Were Okay

We as parents allowed kids to make mistakes. Five years before the 16th birthday and their “new” car gift, they had to help out with our family cars. Once I asked my son, Samuel, to change the oil and asked if he needed help or instruction. “No, Dad, I can do it.” An hour later, he came in and said, “Dad, does it take 18 quarts of oil to change the oil?”  I asked where did he put 18 quarts of oil when normally only five were needed. His response: “That big screw on top at the front of the engine.”  I said, “You mean the radiator?” Well, he did not get into trouble for filling the radiator with oil. He had to drain it, we bought a radiator flush, put in new radiator fluid, and then he had to change the real oil. We did not ground him or give him any punishment for doing it “wrong.” We let the lesson be the teaching tool. Our children are not afraid to try something new.  They were trained that if they do something wrong they will not get punished. It often cost us more money, but we were raising kids, not saving money.

  • Computers Were Okay – as long as they Built Them

The kids each got their own computer but had to build it. I bought the processor, memory, power supply, case, keyboard, hard drive, motherboard, and mouse. They had to put it together and load the software on. This started when they were 12.

  • We Let Them Make Choices

We let the children make their own choices, but limited. For example, do you want to go to bed now or clean your room? Rarely, did we give directives that were one way, unless it dealt with living the agreed-upon family rules. This lets the child feel that she had some control over life.

The Kids Had to Work Together

Parenting isn’t just a parent working with each child, it’s teaching older children to care for and help the younger ones.

  • In House Tutoring

We required the children to help each other. When a fifth grader is required to read 30 minutes a day, and a first grader is required to be read to 30 minutes a day, have one sit next to the other and read. Those in high school calculus tutored those in algebra or grade-school math.

  • Teamwork on Chores

We assigned an older child to a younger child to teach them and help them accomplish their weekly chores.

  • A Monthly Family Council to Make House Rules

We let the children be a part of making the family rules. For example, the kids wanted the rule that no toys were allowed in the family room. The toys had to stay either in the bedroom or playroom. In addition to their chores, they had to all clean their bedroom every day (or just keep it clean in the first place). These were rules that the children wanted. We gave them a chance each month to amend or create new rules. Mom and Dad had veto power of course.

  • Consistency in the Rules

We tried to be always consistent. If they had to study two hours every night, we did not make an exception to it. Curfew was 10 pm during school nights and midnight on non-school nights. There were no exceptions to the rules.

Why you should give you teen a classic car when they turn 16.

Vacation policy

  • Camping Vacations Were the Norm

We would take family vacations every summer for two or three weeks. We could afford a hotel, or cruise, but did not choose those options. We went camping and backpacking. If it rained, then we would figure out how to backpack in the rain and survive. We would set up a base camp at a site with five or six tents, and I would take all kids age 6 or older on a three- to five-day backpack trip. My wife would stay with the little ones. Remember, for 15 years, she was either pregnant or just had a baby. My kids and I hiked across the Grand Canyon, to the top of Mount Whitney, across the Continental Divide, across Yosemite.

  • We Taught Our Kids to Travel Independently

We would send kids via airplane to relatives in Europe or across the US for two or three weeks at a time. We started this when they were in kindergarten. It would take special treatment for the airlines to take a 5-year-old alone on the plane and required people on the other end to have special documentation. We only sent the kids if they wanted to go. However, with the younger ones seeing the older ones travel, they wanted to go. The kids learned from an early age that we, as parents, were always there for them, but would let them grow their own wings and fly.

Money and materialism

We followed the old proverb, “Give a man a fish and you’ll feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you’ll feed him for a lifetime.”

  • We Give Time NOT Money

Even though we have sufficient money, we have not helped the children buy homes, pay for education, pay for weddings (yes, we do not pay for weddings either). We have provided extensive information on how to do it or how to buy rental units and use equity to grow wealth. We do not “give” things to our children but we give them information and teach them “how” to do things. We have helped them with contacts in corporations, but they have to do the interviews and “earn” the jobs.

  • How We Gave Gifts

We give birthday and Christmas presents to the kids. We would play Santa Claus but as they got older, and would ask about it, we would not lie.  We would say it is a game we play and it is fun. We did and do have lists for items that each child would like for presents. Then everyone can see what they want. With the internet, it is easy to send such lists around to the children and grandchildren. Still, homemade gifts are often the favorite of all.

The real world

We loved the children regardless of what they did. But would not prevent consequences of any of their actions. We let them suffer consequences and would not try to mitigate the consequences because we saw them suffering. We would cry and be sad, but would not do anything to reduce the consequences of their actions.

We were and are not our kids’ best friends.  We were their parents.

A photo collage of the Thompson Family

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